The movie I’m going to focus on is Baby Boy. Baby Boy is a movie by John Singleton set in California and focusing on a young black man named Jody and the struggles he faces in everyday life. I chose this movie because I can kind of relate to the story being that I’m from California and I’ve seen a lot of the situations presented in the movie. Jody is in his early twenties and has two kids by two different women, Yvette and Peanut. He still lives with his mother and acts like he is still a kid, hence the name of the movie Baby Boy.
Yvette considers Jody to be her man but he’s still messing around with his other baby mama Peanut, along with numerous other women. Jody and Yvette are constantly arguing about his infidelity and his unwillingness to step up and be a man and move out of his mother’s house, where there is also an ongoing issue because his mother has just moved in her new boyfriend and Jody feels threatened by this. His wants to command the attention of his mother and act like he is the man of the house even though he doesn’t take on any responsibilities as far as getting a job and paying any bills or fixing anything.
So the movie is basically about Jody’s quest to become a man while dealing with the everyday struggles that affect him in the rough streets of California. The issues that Jody struggles with in the movie are basically a reflection of what a lot of black men go through growing up in rough neighborhoods raised by single women. Us as women have the double problem of possibly not growing up with our fathers also, as well as trying to love and understand what are men are going through.
Starting with Jody’s mother she probably feels a lot of guilt because Jody didn’t grow up with his father around, so she spoiled him a lot to try and compensate for it. This in turned made Jody a mama’s boy and made him to think that women were supposed to take care of him. So in turn he seeks out women that are going to cater to his needs without feeling obligated to treat his women in kind. A lot of women are attracted to these types of men because it gives us a kind of sense of security.
We feel that our men need us to take care of them so we have a place in their life and can draw some security from that fact. Especially if we see how much he loves his mother, we feel if we treat him the same way as his mother he is going to love us as well. Every character in this movie could probably use a counseling session so I’d imagine that Jody, Yvette, and his mother were all in a session with me. I know it’s typical but all three people probably didn’t grow up with their fathers around and are trying to compensate for the holes that this has caused for them.
Jody didn’t have anyone to show anyone him how to be a man and show him how to treat a woman. His mom and Yvette are both in search of the love from a man that there weren’t shown as little girls, on top of the fact that they didn’t have an example of what a good man should be so they constantly choose the wrong ones. By the end of the movie each character was either presented with solutions to their problems or was able to learn them through events that unfolded. I would have advised Jody that he needs to start taking responsibility for his actions and his life.
He needs to move out of his mother’s house and stand on his own two feet and learn what it is to be a man so he can take care of his woman and teach his son how to be a man. He inevitably started to learn this concept after his mother put him out after a fight with her boyfriend who suggested that he had an Oedipus complex. I’m not sure if that would have been my diagnosis but there is probably an element of it that is evident. Yvette and his mom just needs to realize that they are worthy of love from someone who is going to love them as well, but their first step is to love themselves.
Don’t be so willing to compromise to a man just because you think that’s going to make him love you. Unfortunately the characters in Baby Boy are typical of black people in society today. Disenfranchisement of our people has caused a lot of single family homes and our children grow up not knowing what a true family is or how to treat a man or a woman because they didn’t grow up with an example of it. A lot of black people today could probably use that therapy session. FILM REFLECTION Chenell Brown PSY 350