Each and every one of us faces personal trials that trigger difficult-to-manage emotions that affect our communication, relationships, and the quality of our lives. We refer to them as emotion challenges of communication. The most common emotional challenges that we all face are anger, passion, and grief. We get angry when we’re mad and even sad. We have passion in what we do and how we feel and we have grief when we lose someone or something tragic happens. These emotions are a part of life and should not hold us back from expressing our emotions, although that’s a lot easier said than done.
Although there are many concepts to interpersonal communication, emotional challenges such as anger and grief and how you express them, is very important. According to our textbook, Anger is a negative primary emotion that occurs when you are blocked or interrupted from attaining an important goal by what you see as the improper action of an external agent (McCornack, 2010).
Anger is greatly driven by the perception that the interruption was improper or unfair. There are many ways to manage your anger but some people don’t always choose the best ways to manage their anger properly. The most common strategy for managing anger is suppression. Many people choose to suppress their anger rather than release it in a healthy way. Suppression often, more times than not, results in lashing out when something triggers your anger. When someone lashes out it most generally means they’ve bottled so much anger up and can simply not hold anything else in and are at their breaking point. Suppressing anger can cause physical and mental problems and you can put yourself in a near-constant state of arousal and negative thinking known as chronic hostility (McCornack, 2010). Another common strategy for releasing anger is venting.
Venting is when you explosively disclose all of your angry thoughts to the person who triggered them. Venting is sometimes thought to be dangerous because it’s similar to lashing out at and purging all your anger on someone who may have not done anything, but venting could also be healthy if you do it in a correct manner such as talking about your emotions rationally with someone who is willing to listen and can help. It’s always best to effectively manage your anger. Some strategies that are highly effective are encounter avoidance, encounter structuring, and reappraisal. However if your anger has been triggered you could consider using an alternative approach called the Jefferson strategy (McCornack, 2010), named after Thomas Jefferson. Another emotional challenge of communication is passion. Passion is a blend of emotions. Passion is an intense emotion compelling feeling, enthusiasm, sexual attraction, or desire for something. Passion mainly stems in large part from surprise, the longer and better you know someone, the less passion you will experience toward that person. Passion is derived from what we perceive as surprising. Our textbook says that you can’t engineer a passionate evening by carefully negotiating a dinner or romantic rendezvous (McCornack, 2010).
The way that the media portrays passion influences how we expect passion to look and feel. Life is hard, but it’s not always the hard times that make it such a struggle. It’s often the inconsistency of the good times that bring on frustration. Maintaining a happy and long-term romance requires lots of work and communication between you and your partner. Some ways to maintain passion in your life for example would be to learn from your mistakes and don’t dwell on them and to always have a healthy escape ready at a moments notice and to always do what you believe is right. One emotional challenge that is quite challenging is grief. Everyone will have to deal with grief quite a few times in their lives. Grief can be described as a multi-faceted response to loss, particularly to the loss of someone or something to which a bond was formed. While the terms are often used interchangeably, bereavement refers to the state of loss, and grief is the reaction to loss. Managing grief is enormously and uniquely taxing (McCornack, 2010). When someone experiences grief, there is a grieving process that you go through. Shock is the initial reaction to loss and then you experience denial. After shock and denial you experience despair and depression and then finally recovery. Crying is a normal and natural part of grieving. Grief is a unique emotional experience and no emotion management strategy can help you just get over it. Grief has to just run its course until you have eventually recovered from your loss.
A great way, however, to help manage your grief is emotion-sharing: talking about your grief with others who are experiencing or have experienced similar pain, or people who are skilled at providing you with much-needed emotional support and comfort (McCornack, 2010). Ways that you can help someone manage their grief could be by joining a support group and going with them but the best way to help others is to engage in supportive communication. Supportive communication is sharing messages that express emotional support and that offer personal assistance. However, sometimes you need to be careful about what messages you give to a grieving individual because some supportive messages could be perceived as unhelpful. For many people, emotions are a scary thing. Part of the problem is that we just don’t know what to do with them, so we turn to the only strategies we do know. Emotions are valuable and offer a bounty of benefits. Once we’re able to process and cope with them effectively, we can learn a lot about ourselves and our needs. Emotions send us important messages and help us connect with others and accomplish great things. Using unhealthy strategies such as sniping and suppressing your anger can sabotage our relationships, jobs and even our health. Expressing our emotions in a healthy manner will help us to overall be healthier and happier in our lives.
To express your emotions you need to recognize the importance of expressing them. Unexpressed emotions affect your entire life. Emotions must be expressed. You can either express your emotions as you have them, or you can put a lot of energy into repressing them and just wind up having to deal with more powerful versions of your emotions later. Decide that you are going to express your emotions as you experience them, it will definitely benefit you more. Anger, passion, and grief are all major emotional challenges that each and every one of us experience quite often in our lifetimes. Knowing how to express these emotions effectively is one of the best communication skills that someone could have.
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