For years there has been an ongoing debate of the stay at home mom vs. the working mom. Which mom has it better? Which child benefits or flourishes more? Whose bond with their child is stronger? Are social skills compromised? In what ways are family structures and or the bond between mother and child suffer if at all? These are just some of the questions that are being asked and debated upon between the two mom titles. With an objective eye and with experience in both realms I will attempt to give some insight into the age old debate of stay at home moms vs. working moms.
Early morning of April 13th 2009 my life changed forever and for the best in every way possible. I gave birth to my son. It was a new experience for me I was looking forward to holding him, taking care of him, and just watching him as he grows. Then reality hit. In this day and age and with the economy in the state that it is, there was no way that I would be able to be a “stay at home mom” and afford to take care of the essentials of my child and household. Work was a must. I was going to have to venture out into the work world.
I stayed home with him for the first four months but the need to go back to work was always in the forefront. I knew that it would be hard but it could be done. I wished that I could have stayed home with London for those most formative years to be able to catch his first everything, first word, first smile, first steps, his first time being able to roll himself over. These were the things undoubtedly that a stay at home mom would have a firsthand account of experiencing. As a “working mom” I was bound to hear about some of these things if not all from a third party. I didn’t want to have to go through the woes of finding a trustworthy daycare or sitter. I got lucky, I didn’t have to entrust the care of my son to any strangers my mother in law was available. Not only was I sure he was in a safe environment he would be taught with the same values.