An Experience That Changed Me

What I have learned a healthy and growth-producing change that I want to make change, or process of making change. Things I cannot change. I cannot change where I came from, lost a trust, personality traits, and my sexual preference. I cannot do a thing to change where I came from and the circumstances or situations I was born or how my parents raised me. Sometimes, I wish that things had been different, but I learned to let go of what I cannot change the past. The truth is that it is not worth my time to think about what is over. The past is over. Trust is the most valuable and it is easy to lose trust. If once the trust is lost they can never get the same trust back.

Trust is essential in any relationship. Without trust, a relationship will not last. For example, I lost my trust in my mother because she always tells me that she would stop using drugs many times and all her lies. She wasted my time and energy for believing her for nothing. I cannot trust my mother again; however, in the future, I want to be able to trust her again. I cannot change my personal traits. I begin to analyze more about myself. I am a people-person, extraversion, impatient, and a good listener. Being impatient, I learned that an impatience can cause me to tense to my muscles involuntarily and excessive stress. That is something I need to work on to improve to transform impatience into patience. It will takes a lot of practice.

I believe that people cannot change their sexual orientation. I cannot change my sexual identity or who I attracted to. For example, I was attracted to women since I was born, there is nothing I can change for who I am. I simply cannot stop feeling attracted to a sex after spending years being attracted to women. It is definitely not possible for sexual orientation to be changed. It is not worth my time and energy to try to change these things. I have accepted what I cannot change and move on with my life.

Things I would want to change. I should be eating healthier and exercise more. I am a college student and working full-time job. I did not have time to go to the grocery store or exercise. I eat junkie food and stop at the fast food almost every day. After graduate, my goal is to make healthy change in my eating habit and exercise more.

An experience that changed me, I was able to free my nicotine addiction. I used to smoke two pack of cigarettes for fifteen years. Quitting smoking was one the hardest I ever did. After quitting smoking, it has improved my health.

The costs that I cannot making the change. I tend to jump into things without thinking about what will happen as a result. My most recent relationship, I moved in with her within two months which she is in an hour south of Rochester. I should have waited a year or so to make sure that our relationship is stable enough to last under the same house. I learned that moving in together is a huge step in a relationship. It creates a lot of pressure and an extreme consequences the fact that our relationship did not work out. I wasted the money on moving, fought over personal belongings, and transportation an hour from home to work every day.

The costs that I can making the change. In 2013, I moved to Rochester, NY because I want to complete with my college degree at Monroe Community College and I can find a better job after I graduate. If I decided to stay in Ohio, my consequence is that I may not complete my college degree or have a good job. When I first moved to Rochester, it was very hard I did not have a support system but within the challenging I went through it has changed me, and the positive change consequence is really awesome. I am a soon to be graduate with an Associate Science in Human Services.

I would say my stage is in contemplation because I have considering about change but I am not quite ready to start. I am having a hard to prioritizing with the self-care when I am in college and working full-time job.