In my life, I have been exposed to a challenge called change. Change can occur in many different ways and is dealt with in many different ways. I have come to the awareness that change can be the deepest of all things.
I always thought that change occurred when you moved to a state or when you lost someone real close to you. Those are a challenge to change, yes, but change doesn’t have to occur over a climactic incident. It can just appear overnight when your brain winds up when it’s time to do something different.Even with friends that you used to have and know that move on.
For example, most of my friends from elementary school, I don’t even talk to them anymore. For obvious reasons, people will turn down the changes in life. When people who are close to each other will reject change because they feel that this change is going to separate them and make them not as close as they used to be. Like how my best friend moved on to college in another state.
I feel that we will never talk again or we won’t have the same relationship that we had before.Luckily, with the internet, I can talk to him through instant messaging on the computer. People will fight the change until they force the person to change. It’s depressing how this works, but it’s probably the most reason why people change.
It’s much like peer pressure which usually ends up in the wrong direction. For example, I was almost peer pressured to consume alcohol and to do smoking. Fortunately, for me, I escaped that change and didn’t experience it. The people we adore love us so much that they want us to remain the way we are forever.
Like how my mother always wanted me to stay the same little child, but I grew up. Not all people can stay the same for a long time. If the people we love and adore would just accept the change and go with it, they would understand where the change was coming from. It can be shaky to try to stop change and fight against it, especially if the person wants to change a lot.
When I was ready for high school, I was expected to change almost everything in my life. The reason that somebody wants to change is usually not their choice, but a feeling that the person feels inside their head.Maybe the change isn’t the best change, but if you dig deeper, the person that you adore isn’t really changing. They are just trying to find themselves and the one thing they need the most is the support of the people who they care about the most.
When I was attending college, I was expecting a lot of changing to take place. With the support of my family and friends, it was no big deal for me. When the people they care about the most, detach their change as something not important and try to protect everything by rules and regulations.The person they adored begins to change out of distress and he or she thought they would appreciate it, but really has no idea.
Maybe change isn’t always bad or good, like I was saying before, but it can be looked at as something to help you build up to scale. If someone you know is changing, be there for them. Offer your opinion but help them go through which ever they need to go through because they will do what they need to do regardless of the people that they really do adore.