Steps to Solving a Problem
There a several Steps to Solving a Problem Process and in the paper I will use three of the many stages to solve one of the problems I struggle with on a weekly and daily basis. Stage one of the creative process – searching for the problem – emphasizes the importance of responding to problems in triggering one’s creativity (Ruggiero, 2009). Stage two centers on expressing the problem or issue innumerous ways and finding the most creative and helpful ideas. Obtaining the information necessary to solve the problem or issue is the objective of the third stage. The fourth and final stage of the creative process deals with producing the ideas necessary to solve the problem or determine a stance on the issue. Search Considering the four stages in the creative process that work to solve an issue or problem, a personal challenge that I can apply the stages to would be in re-evaluating myself as a whole and making life changes to become a better family member, friend and friend to myself. I applied three out of the six techniques described in Ch. 6 to help with finding which areas, specifically, needed the most work.
Using the first technique, “being observant,” I noticed how tired I am on a weekly basis after dealing with work, school and doing for others. I took notice of me always trying to please everyone and not knowing when enough is enough. I’m constantly on the go trying to help make everyone happy and rarely take out time for myself. The second technique – “look for the imperfections” in things. Applying the “note you’re own and other’s dissatisfaction” technique I became aware of how I often feel when I’m busy with school or work and can’t be there for my friends. Not realizing that I can’t be everywhere at all times for my friends and that sometimes they need to be able to solve the problem on their own.
Looking deeper into the Problem
After delving deeper into my personal challenge and applying the techniques described in Ch. 6, I realized that the problem associated with my personal challenge wasn’t about becoming a better family member or friend, but it was about feeling the need to please everyone and ensure that they are happy with me. “How can I find time for myself?” How do I gradually stop doing so much for others and start doing more for me?” After re-evaluating my questions, I found that the actual question that needed to be asked needed to be refined. Instead of asking the question stated I needed to be asking, “What can I do to ensure that I have some leisure time to myself, how do I stop feeling the need to never please everyone and start buying and doing little things that I need to make me happier. The revised expression summed up the true root of the problem and allowed for me to solve all the questions I initially had and investigated things in order to solve my end problem; I would need to first address prior issues.
One of the concerns I had was being able to spend time to by myself. I did some calculation’s on the time I spend at work, school, with my son and with my friends. After doing these calculations I realized I usually have about one or two hours during the week for time for me. I soon realized that there used to be a time when I was deployed often and could not spend time with my son and friends, I realized that everyone is happy to see me sitting still in one state and just want to make the best of our time. Finding time for each person and myself will be a work in progress, but I will need to do a schedule and stick to it and not be afraid to someone know when I’m feeling burnt out or just simply need some alone time.
The actual problem I faced in my personal challenge was finding a way to ensure that each of my family members felt loved and appreciated without feeling the need to always be a pleaser. By researching what it was that was causing me to feel this way, I could be more understanding of what it is my friends and family are really seeking from me. Overall I learned that keeping a calendar which would assign certain days of the week for spending time with family and friends, as well as making sure I put in a few hours a week for personal time for me and a day for me to just go and pamper myself every two weeks or twice a month depending on my cash flow.
Through investigating I learned that by managing my time better and by realizing that I could not give the attention each of my family member and friend needed all the time, but if I spread it out over a few days I could achieve my goal and make everyone happy including me. I also designated a day every month to mom and son night and he and I will choose a movie or fun thing to do together. I also started taking more time to send out weekly text messages simply saying I love you or that they are being thought of and keep them apprised if I have a busy work or school schedule and might not be able to hangout during that week on month. Being able to have a direct line of communication, and not feeling guilty when I need some alone time to finish a work task or school will help me become well rounded as a friend and family member, therefore elevating some of the stress I had been feeling when I didn’t know how to simply say “No” .
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