Domestic ViolenceBy: Kris HudsonEach day, the statistics on domestic violence get more and morehorrifying. A woman is beaten every 15 seconds, 22 to 35 percent of emergencyroom visits from women are because of ongoing partner abuse, 1 in 4 pregnantwomen have a history of partner violence, and 63 percent of young men betweenthe ages of 11 and 20 are in jail for murdering their mothers abuser. Alsodomestic violence is the leading cause of injuries to women between 15 and 44.
All these statistics prove that domestic violence is a big problem in ourcountry.
Battering in a relationship is the establishment of control and fearthrough violence and other forms of abuse. The batterer will use acts ofviolence and goes through a series of behaviors, including intimidation, threats,psychological abuse, isolation, etc. to control the other person. The violencein the relationship may not happen often but it remains a hidden and terrorizingfactor.
There are many people among us that are battered or have been battered.
This problem is very sensitive and embarrassing. Some indicators that a womanis being abused are:the woman mentions not being able to use the phone she cannot see friend unless her significant other is aroundher significant other will not let her drive, get a job, or go to schoollook for low self-esteem like she is unable to make eye contact or she always looks away or at the ground when talkingSome indicators that a male child is being abused are:serious problems with temper tantrumscontinual fighting at school or between siblingstreating pets cruelly or abusivelyattempting to get attention by hitting, kicking, or choking with female children:withdrawal (not obvious)cringing if you raise your armBatterings in the home usually don’t start out with abuse. The spousewill use verbal abuse, hit objects, throw objects, break objects, and makingthreats. When these actions start, in almost 100 percent of the cases, thesignificant other resorts to battering. After the woman gets sick of thebattering and decides to leave he will almost definitely try to get her back.
There are five different ways he will try to get the woman back. One way is forhim to bribe the woman into coming back, this is known as the honeymoon syndrome.
The superdad syndrome is used when kids are involved and he has neglected themin the past. He will tell her that he will be a great dad if she returns.
Another is known as the revival syndrome he will say that he has been to churchevery Sunday since the woman left and say that he has accepted god into his life.
Next is the sobriety syndrome, the woman will think if he stops drinking hewill stop beating me. The last is counseling syndrome, he will say he has beento counseling and will not beat her anymore when about one percent actually goto counseling.
What all this means is that we have a big problem on our hands thatneeds to be addressed and taken care of immediately. This cannot go on anylonger unnoticed.