People are prone to others, to hold onto ideals they cherish the most. We as human beings need some sort of physical form to attach ourselves to no matter what circumstance may be presented in front of us. Love is just one of the many presented circumstances that require such attachments, the purest and most in depth circumstance that anyone could ever be a part of. The characters within the story “What We Talk About When We Talk About Love” are considered to be within the boundaries of an in-love relationship.
They show the differences between couples, the good and evil, and even what the betrayal of previous marriages can do to a person’s ability to fall in love again. There is one key to being able to succeed without probable cause to fail and that would be the ability to adapt. The necessity to accommodate another’s form of love is a requirement for any relationship to blossom into a successful, happy romance. Within the story, there are four different people; Nick and Laura then Teri and Mel, who are in their respective relationships and both are somewhat in opposite positions.
The couple of Nick and Laura being the newly wed, deep lovers who can’t see any bad in the other – the so called innocence of love, while Mel and Teri are the previously divorced, bitter (so it seems, when you get down to the deep roots of their relationship) couple who have scarring past experiences – the so called corruptive love laced with a hint of hazed mystery. If there ever was a perfect definition of love, the characters within the story defiantly do not exhibit it at all. They’re more or less the extremes of love, the low and high points.
From the depressive, drunken stupor love to the puppy-dog-eyed, lovey-dovey love. Both couples have various aspects that support the accusation, possibly even countless, mind boggling infectious reasons. When in the end, without balance there is no love, just desire and regret. Regret for past wrongs and the want for something to work, even if subconsciously knowing it won’t. It is possible to form a working relationship without the accomplishment of a perfect, ideal love– because there isn’t an ideal love.
There needs to be substantial moderation from the other person in order for love to work. For example, Nick and Laura seem to close, too preoccupied with the other to realize that they may spend 50 years together mentally in a matter of 5. That they may wear out their welcome in the others heart, and eventually collapse. Teri and Mel’s relationship is one of past problems, never accepted or patched, or have had ample opportunity to, which causes their own disarray.
In the end love is a personal preference, and is required to be adapted by the secondary party in order to create a sense of understanding. Only then can their love flourish into a successful relationship. In the end all any of us want is to fall in love, and live our lives with the other. Although finding such a person can be tedious and frustrating a times, it is worth it. Adaptation is the key to any love, to give in to the other person’s wants and desires and vice versa. Not in the extremes of Nick and Laura, but not to the bitterness of Teri and Mel.
Love and relationships are very fragile things. They are so fragile in fact that it just takes one thing, one tiny little offence and it can snowball on you. (Mel’s proclaimed affection for Laura) And if that snowball starts to pick up speed, god forbid, you better tuck and roll. Relationships do not work the way they do in television and in the movies. (Will they? Wont they? And then they finally do and there happy forever. ) Nine out of ten of them end because they weren’t right for each other to begin with and half of the ones that get married get divorced anyway. as we can clearly see from the story) Love may be mainly about pushing chocolate covered candies, and in some cultures a chicken. But we all believe in it, one aspect or another. Bottom line, its couples that are truly right for each other wade through the same crap as everybody else but the big difference is they don’t let it take them down. One of those two people will stand up and fight for that relationship every time if it’s right. And there really lucky, the relationship just might be able to be named: LOVE.
