Even in Real Life, There Were Screens Between Us What is love like for you? Caitlin Dewey’s purpose of her story is to explain to the audience a time in her life in which she experienced love, and to inform and persuade the reader about her perspective of online and in-real-life relationships. However, most people think that love can’t exist when the majority of that relationship occurs online. Caitlin Dewey shares with us her experience with love: online vs. real life. Dewey has a strong argument because there really is no way that you can argue or disagree with her story since only she has experienced it firsthand.
Caitlin Dewey never actually says that she is trying to persuade the reader what to think about love, but is nonetheless just trying to convey the audience about her own experience when she felt a spark with someone and how the circumstances can change things. The article itself is convincing because it is Caitlin Dewey’s own personal experience. She wrote the essay for the purpose of sharing her personal experience so that the readers could see what her perception of love is.
The language of the article really works because many of the people who read it are college students and college students will most likely be able to relate to the article. The story is very believable. Many people nowadays will at some point be introduced to someone, or will meet someone maybe only one time at some sort of social event or even in class, and the next thing you know, that person will friend request you on Facebook or other social networks and will try to make conversation and get to know you.
I, as well as many other people I know, have had an experience where someone you may have met once or twice friend requests you and starts to make conversation. Surely, a numerous amount of readers have made the same connection, assuring that Caitlin Dewey’s story is credible to most people. In Caitlin Dewey’s case, she and Will made chatting online a regular thing for them, and as they talked more they eventually got very close by communicating via Skype, an online video chat program.
Although Caitlin Dewey is not a professional writer, she is a college student who is just as knowledgeable if not more knowledgeable about the topic as any professional writer would be. Many people claim they are in love in high school or college, when really the majority of them don’t even know what love is. I can personally relate to Caitlin Dewey’s personal experience because she was a college student trying to have a long distance relationship and I am also in college and am in a long distance relationship.
However, I have known my boyfriend for a very long time and she had only met Will once before they began chatting. Either way, it gives me an understanding of how she feels and I can relate to both online and real life relationships. She talks about how Will acted differently in person than he had acted online, which seems like a valid point according to the majority of people that I have talked to online and act completely different on the Internet than they actually do in real life. Caitlin Dewey expresses the differences between Internet conversations, and “in real life (IRL)” conversations throughout her essay.
She speaks of how people have steered themselves towards the Internet for a safe, sanitized intimacy, but those who do that are those who truly want something entirely different. Caitlin Dewey mentioned how easily she was able avoid Will whenever she wanted online, as well as, her ability to dodge the awkwardness at any time. Also, she could basically choose when she wanted to and did not want to talk to him. These are the things that are pretty much impossible to accomplish when it comes to real life situations.
When Caitlin Dewey tells about her experiences online and in real life, she uses pathos to convey her feelings between her and Will. Those who have had experiences like Dewey’s can sense the appeal to emotions that her story brings and how others can relate and have the same types of feelings towards the Internet and real life relationships. She uses detail in her story forcing the audience to realize how Caitlin Dewey feels as she experiences different situations. Caitlin Dewey uses very few facts in her writing piece.
However, I was unaware of the many occurrences in which it was necessary for this particular story to appeal to logos. Straightforwardly, when Caitlin Dewey actually did use facts to support her argument, the facts themselves did not give off the impression that they had come from a reliable source. For example, Caitlin Dewey stated, “I’ve read that 90 percent of human communication is nonverbal. Skype captures that 90 percent on a low-resolution video camera, compresses it, funnels it to a node computer, and reproduces it on a screen anywhere in the world. Evidently, Dewey does not mention where she read that percentage and where she came up with that information. Although she stated facts without giving information about how she got it, I do not have the desire to change my opinion about the argument. I don’t believe that Caitlin Dewey had the intention of persuading her audience with facts, but to persuade them by informing them of her own experience and opinions. Either way, the fact that ninety percent of human communication is nonverbal, is stating something that may not be one hundred percent accurate.
On the other hand, most people would probably agree that the statement is true, or at least agree that a large amount of communication is nonverbal because of the technology and advancements that exist in today’s society. Whether her supporting facts appear to be completely accurate or not, hardly makes a difference to the audience because it does not serve a great enough purpose in her essay. Moreover, Caitlin Dewey’s lack of supporting claims does not take away the appeal to ethos that her writing piece contains.
There is no reason why the audience would think that a young lady who has just graduated college would be an unreliable source when it comes to experiencing a feeling “love” or “infatuation” because obviously she is telling a recent story. Whereas, if the author of the composition were to have been an elderly women, there would be much more doubt in the story to be as credible as Caitlin Dewey’s story because it could be outdated and less relevant to those who are experiencing young love at the current time.
Overall, it would be unsound to label Caitlin Dewey as an unreliable author even though she is not a professional writer, because she clearly has experienced the events she speaks of and in no way can any of her experiences in her essay be proven false. Most people who have read or will soon read Dewey’s persuasive piece can relate to the story in at least some form. For instance, most people have at least some type of social network in which they have purposely or accidently had a conversation with someone whom they may or may not have met and most which have also communicated to that person in real life.
Even so, if the reader has never had a relationship, you can guarantee that they can at least relate to the concept of real life vs. nonverbal communication. Since the article was published in a college textbook, obviously most people reading it will be in college, making the language of argument even more effective. Reading an argument written by one who is of or around the same age as the reader in truth benefits the reader because of the body style that it is written in. An argument is most effective when the reader is familiar which the language of writing in which it is written.
In most cases the reader will most likely be more willing to agree with an argument that they can easily follow and agree with because they have already been familiarized with certain ways. For instance, if an argument was written in a time period that the reader is not from or familiar with, than more than likely the person reading the argument will be more inclined to disagree or not be persuaded because of it is much too complicated. Whereas in Caitlin Dewey’s writing piece, the form that it is written in is pretty much a first person informative narrative and is very easy to grasp the points and see the authors perspective.
Caitlin Dewey’s writing piece overall was persuasive and because it is a memoir of hers, there really is not many things that would necessarily influence the reader to go against her perspective of online and in-real-life relationships because her story behind it all, portrays her point of view vividly and without any doubt that something she said in the essay could really contradict one’s opinion from Caitlin Dewey’s. Furthermore, the author composed a strong argument with an abundant amount of evidence and examples serving the purpose of supporting her opinion on the topic.