The Book of the Courtier by Baldassar Castiglione was a influential guide to proper etiquette for both men and women from 1528 until the late 18th century. This definitive book was published in various languages, including French, Latin, Spanish, Dutch, English, German, and Polish. It consisted of four dialogues that emphasized different “rules” for those aspiring to be part of the upper class. These rules were considered essential by high society in Europe and were treated as absolute laws.
Some rules can be grouped together as they convey similar messages or point towards common principles of behavior.
There are several rules that are still followed today. These rules include being born into a wealthy family, not boasting or bragging, not spreading rumors, not leading on someone of the opposite sex unless they are of the same social status, speaking multiple languages such as French, Italian, and Spanish, being graceful in everything you do, not participating in sports for ladies, being knowledgeable, making sure that your armor is well kept and taken care of (for gentlemen), being able to fight in a tournament and against a range of weapons (for gentlemen), and acting as if you were a person of the court.
The following rules are still in effect: dress for success, treat everyone with respect, be kind, treat your significant other just as you would like to be treated if you are in a relationship, exhibit ladylike or gentlemanlike behavior, be courteous, and maintain close friendships. These rules, along with the three major categories of respect, leadership, and social image,
guide individuals of high social standing on how to conduct themselves in both public and private settings.
The Book of The Courtier by Baldassar Castiglione laid the foundation for contemporary etiquette books. However, these rules now apply not only to the affluent but also to everyone else.
