In life, at least once, everyone has wondered why they are the way they are. How they don’t react to certain situations like that guy. That’s out traits and characteristics, we can’t choose or change them. Some people say that our character is what we choose to make of it while others believe the opposite. Character is based on influences because of surroundings and past experiences.
Blaming your surroundings on a bad habit is not necessarily an excuse. Sometimes where a particular person comes from can give them helpful habits in the long run. A lot of people keep their guards up in unknown places or any place but their houses. Like most of my friends, when we walk into heavily crowded areas they scan the entire scene as we are walking in. I don’t do that because most of the time because I’m in my house or with someone who makes sure everything is safe for me.
Honestly, I’m oblivious to a lot of things because I’ve always had somebody to take care of things for me and my neighborhood isn’t really bad. But that isn’t the case for someone with a completely opposite situation than mine.
Secondly, an individual’s mannerisms can be greatly affected by past experiences and trauma. A situation that went south, especially at a crucial age, could be the leading cause to one’s normal behavior. Someone could be less trusting of people because of a traumatic experience. Let’s say a boy was saving money for a car. He got around $1,575, since he couldn’t buy the car himself, he gave it too his older brother to get it for him. Instead, his older brother uses the money to buy clothes and shoes.
When the older brother told the boy what he did they fought and had a falling out not speaking to each other for years. Even if they were to reconcile, the younger boy would know not to entrust anything, important or not, into anyone’s hands.
Nevertheless, not everyone agrees. Some people say people choose their character. They argue that people make their own decisions. However, in reality, we don’t choose our own character because it is based on how a person grew up. For example, my friend, who is like family to me, may seem a little aggressive to people who don’t know her that well. Since I know that’s how she is I don’t think anything of it. This school year we have a class together and we only knew each other. Her tone of voice and the way she said things made people feel a certain way. She can’t help it, she grew up around her older brother and his friends a lot, so that means she doesn’t seem like the nicest person until you get to know her.
In conclusion, I believe a person’s character is based on different influences. Character is based on influences because of their surrounds and past experiences. Therefore, people should understand that not everyone is able to choose their own traits.
