In an arrange marriages, the bride and groom is selected by a third party, rather than by each other. It is especially common in Indian, Southeast; Asian and African cultures, and I believe this is a ritual that I would strongly recommend to be eliminated in contemporary society. From my point in view, arrange marriages are just unfair and it is cheating life. Usually, in arranged marriages it basically forces two human beings that can be incompatible for each other and are forced to spend the rest of their lives together.
In most cases these marriages are brutally unhappy because of the lack of true love and affection that comes from falling in love with someone in a natural way. How can two strangers possibly become one without knowing each other? Because in a marriage two people are suppose to unite into one, by committing themselves to becoming one in the eyes of God as well as before their family and friends.
Basically, this means being able to accept and love your other half with all your heart, despite all the flaws in his or her personality.
In most cases, the whole point of dating is to get to know one another, so you can witness their flaws and try to understand and overcome the flaws. It takes years to really know someone, and completely trust the person your with. By rushing into a relationship only will lead into a collision course for failure. When you are being rushed into something, you may not be 100% sure about only leads to couples separating themselves from this wonderful emotion, which they are only being deprived from.
It is only natural to meet someone, date them, and if he or she keeps you interest long enough you eventually fall in love, which is a beautiful feeling, and I believe everyone should be able to feel that kind of emotion. In arrange marriages you are forcing yourself to feel a certain type of way that only comes natural, and in cases like that it can become an overwhelming feeling with bad motives, which would be consider fake love.
Ultimately, there is no one to blame because the couple will not know any better because they never had the choice to pick freely who they want to spend the rest of their life with. Trust takes years to build, and you should not commit to a relationship, let alone a marriage if you do not know that person as well as you should. Getting to know the other person is very helpful for determining compatibility, the purpose of getting to know the other person is not to use that knowledge to manipulate the relationship.
It is human nature to only show our best traits in the beginning of dating, were basically trying to sell ourselves. We all have faults and in healthy relationships we can allow others to discover and accept these parts of us through the process. But if you are not giving the choice to get to know someone first before you are married you are not allowing yourself to properly gain trust from your partner to not deceive us.
It is important to love yourself, and love is supposed to be a foundation at home. Passion is also a natural emotion you share with your significant other, an emotion that is impossible to be forced, and in arrange marriages are being deprived from that feeling as well as naturally falling in love. Arrange marriages are unfair, and I believe it is only cheating ones life. You only live once, and who wouldn’t want to fall in love and marry the love of your life without any regrets?
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