According to Helen Keller “Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved.” I believe that challenges which we face in our life make our character and determine our future. Every person has difficulties in his life. These challenges play a great role in our life. Because in these situations we either say “Go on!” or “Stop!” to everything.
Some of them become stories of our life because they taught us a lesson, some of them are thrown to rubbish because they couldn`t show the right way. We can relate these difficulties to some points. Some of them come from our will, some of them are just coincidence. The most regretful ones are difficulties which come not from our will.
The difficulty which I lived was outer my will and desire. This challenge had made a great effect on my life for long years. The people who want to feed their moral emptiness create big problems for themselves. But it isn`t an easy task to achieve. You want to make it fulfill with your tears but it doesn’t work. You pretend as a strong one and try to convince other people. In reality, you just hide behind “yourself”. Nobody knows it, only you.
When you are in trouble you want HIM. You think that he can help you because he is your hero. The biggest problem in my life was my father or the empty place which he left after himself. He abandoned me, his family when I was a child. Since that time I wanted to fulfill that place but I couldn’t. It was impossible. When you grow you want him to be with you, support you, and show you the way.
If you weren’t to get that power from your ideal person, you would get hurt. If you are a man, it hurts you deeper, because you can`t show the others your weakness. It influenced my character and behavior as well. I became a very introvert and paranoid person. It cause me a lot of problems in my childhood. I tried not to make friends or love other people, as I was afraid that they will abandon me one day.
As a result I lost believe in myself and others. Lack of self-confidence cause a lot of difficulties in my life. I was terrified to perform or even speak in front of other people. Then I realized that you need to be strong if you want to be successful in all ways of life. I attended a lot of seminars, participated in volunteer programs and read motivational books. Going to the sport and doing different types of exercises made me physically and psychologically strong. After some time I learned that time can cure everything. Patience is very important quality in one`s life. All time when I wanted my father beside me, I forced myself to accept that he isn`t and won`t be with me. And I continued my psychological struggle inside myself.
After some time, healing and training myself I forgot him. Nowadays when I see some obstacles I do it myself without wanting his assistance. My psychological struggle made me a very strong one. Life showed me that I can live without him. It helped me to trust only myself. Now I know that I can overcome all the difficulties in my life because I am strong one with a firm will and great capacity.
