Staying Strong Essay
Staying Strong You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have. Sometimes people are put into situations that they can’t get out of or feel like they are stuck. I remember my sister crying and being upset. I didn’t know at that time what was going on until she revealed she was pregnant and didn’t know what to do. I thought that having a baby was supposed to be something to be happy about.
Unfortunately, my sister was left alone and had difficult choices to make. My parents where not the happiest people, since they didn’t think omething like this would happen. Not only was the pregnancy a problem, but it eventually brought my family together and my sister became a stronger person. I often wonder what my sisters life would have been if she had changed her mind about the baby. Many years have passed by and I can look at her and say I am proud to have her as my sister.
My sisters name is Maribel, but we like to call her Mari. When she broke the news of her pregnancy, it was a complete shock to all of our family. Although I was young at that time, I was there to support her.
Mari has always been the type to help anyone out, but this time it was her that needed the help. The baby’s father agreed to be part of the baby’s life and that he was going to be there for her no matter what. Time was passing by and we noticed that he wasn’t sticking to his words. Mari would cry and there where days that she would be down, yet she remained strong because now she had a baby on the way. My sister was determined that she was going to raise the baby on her own and continue to further her education. This proved hat even though things seemed a bit rocky, she wasn’t going to give up on her goals and continue to be the happy person she was. We later found out that Mari was expecting a girl. Unfortunately, around the same time we found out that baby’s father had already fathered another child with someone else. To see my sister get hurt once again was not an easy thing to witness. Mari still managed to keep her head up high and continue to look forward to the baby’s arrival. I learned that no matter how tough a situation can get, family will always come first.
There where times when the baby’s father would show up and then disappear. It was like we where getting used to him not being around. Mari had a choice to make. She had to decide if she was going to put child support on him after the baby’s arrival, since he was the one that walked away from her. At that point, my sister felt that she was stuck and couldn‘t move forward. My niece Kimberly was born a few months later. That day my sisters life changed forever and I will never forget how happy she was to finally hold her baby in her arms. She had lready been through so much that we were excited for her. Not too long after my nieces arrival, Mari wanted to get back to work and go to school, but she didn’t want to leave my niece alone for long periods of time. She was again faced with another challenge, continue to further her education and provide for my niece or stay at home and care for her without any source of income. My mom agreed to help my sister out and was able to baby sit my niece while my sister was at work and or school.
Mari was beginning to grow as a person and I truly believed that she as going to do whatever she could in her power to overcome this situation and be the best mother to her daughter. My niece is now fourteen years old. Throughout all these years, this situation has affected me because I sometimes think that if I was to get pregnant, would the same thing happen to me. It has affected me in both good and bad ways. I saw how my sister was struggling in the beginning, yet she managed to pick herself up. This taught me that no matter how bad you think you have it, you have to keep going and things will start looking up. Not only was she able to ecome a stronger person, but I was able to grow up along with her. I started to see that becoming a mother was not easy and that there is a lot of things that come along with it. After seeing the baby’s father walking away from my sister, I believed that all guys where the same way. I didn’t want to think about having a baby since I saw the things that could happen. My sister will always be the person that taught me many different things while growing up. Being a single parent is not always easy, but if the person is determined to be the strong for the baby, things will fall into place.